Bonding with Stepdaughter 💔

Some of you may have seen me post similar things about my 5 year old stepdaughter over the last few days but I feel like none of my posts have gotten to the heart of my issue... I don’t know what to do with her!

I am my stepdaughters main caretaker and have been for 4 years so I try my best to bond with her but we seem to clash a lot. I don’t know how to spend quality time with her.

These are some example of activities we try and why they don’t work:

•Coloring: gets bored after 5 minutes

•Playdo: gets bored after 5 minutes

•Movies: can’t pay attention

•Going places: complains of being tired and/or bored the whole time and pouts

•Playing outside: it’s always too hot or too cold for her no matter how nice it is

•Imagination Games: is very bossy and rude

I always feel so lost and frustrated on how to spend time with her. She behaves like I never do anything with her and I treat her badly but that’s not true. I try so hard to spend time with her but it feels impossible.

I really need good advice/ideas on how to bond with her. I’m the person that cares for her everyday, I’m the person that buys everything for her, and I’m the person that does the most stuff with her but she treats me like I’m not a part of her family. Please help?! 😭