Virgin Problems

I am a virgin that is very tight down there and is wondering if there is a way to help with making yourself less tight down there? So that when I do have sex it won’t hurt as much and right now I can’t even fit a vibrator or dildo in there bc it’s soo tight. Can anyone help me out with this please I am very sick of not even being able to masturbate with different toys because it’s to tight and painful when doing so down there.