Dating with kids... at what point should I allow him to babysit and share taking care of them if we plan to get married?

I been with him for over two years.

Never lived together but we’ll spend days at a time together.

He disciplines the kids and is really great with them when it comes to playing and making them feel happy when they’re sad.

But it stops there.

He said he was going to make them a room at his house because it was hard for me to go to his house when they had no place to play, sleep and so on.

But he never did it...

I broke up with him a few times for stuff like this.

I know they’re not his and I should let expect him to treat them like that.

There father lives 13 hours away.

So I’m scared they want him to be that person but I’m not sure if he does.

He claims he does and that he wants to marry me.

But hasn’t shown that extra step of helping.

Today I had to work... kids are not in school because Xmas break.

I had no one to watch them.

He offered and then he said I just rather not.

Can you take off?

I ran out of pto and didn’t want to not go to work but because were not really married I felt guilting to insist on him helping.

So I don’t know.

It seems odd to me after two years, that he can’t watch the kids if my mom and dad can’t.

But I might be wrong to feel this way. So I’m confused.