So I'm American but I married an amazing man from another country that is practically stuck in the 1950s as far as traditional home values go. The woman stays home, cooks, cleans, raises the children, has sex with her husband, doesnt say much, etc.. my husband is NOT like that at all... living in the states, his own personality, and his mom changed that traditional family values to that men are apart of the family and help out.. when we met I didnt think anything of it. I was studying, working.. when we got married we both worked and studied.. and when we had our son we decided my income wasnt going to cover day care and we had more than enough on his income.. so I'm a stay at home mom (former teacher) and I do a LOT of teaching with my kiddo (2.5).. pretty much my day is spent Classroom style encouraging exploration and learning and when husband gets home one of us makes dinner and we eat, get kiddo to bed and then we both do chores... he sees my value in educating our son as he is bilingual and excelling in academics but flourishing in other social and emotional areas as well... he sees my job as a private tutor for our son while still being mommy..

His father HATES it... he thinks I should do the child rearing, cooking, cleaning, SERVING my husband his breakfast and dinner and packing his lunch, laundry, and keeping our son clean BEFORE my husband gets home from work (bathed and dressed).. he and my MIL is visiting and he sees all of the nurturing and housework my husband does (we share the load of everything... so if he starts a load of laundry I may finish it.. dishes if one of us is busy.. a perfect balance..) and my FIL is there telling my MIL "why is our son doing everything (i) should be doing?- why is he getting our grandson food when that's her purpose?".. and then nonstop its "(wife) serve me my breakfast, lunch, dinner, tea,"... or "wife I will wake up at 8:30, I expect bread and tea tomorrow"... and she complies... never gets a thank you or anything... i grew up completely different.. similar to my home now.... they visit for another 2 weeks...

Should i ignore the complaints? He threw a tantrum because the lunch I made today was cold when he decided to have lunch (2 hours after I got done making it because to him 1pm was too early for lunch (he woke up at 10:30am and ate a huge breakfast))... so he made me microwave it.. like wtf.. its 2019.. not some 1900 where the woman is a servant... even commented how he doesnt think we have sex enough... because my husband is always so stressed.. like wtf.