I’m 12w 3d pregnant with our second baby (our first is 19 months old) and I have 0 sex drive. I don’t want to be touched at all. I feel bad for my husband because I love him and I know he still enjoys sex and still wants me that way. I have read of other ways of being intimate that don’t involve sex but sometimes it just won’t do. So I suck it up and let him get busy with me.... but I absolutely HATE it!

We have open communication with each other and I’ve told him how my libido has disappeared completely. I don’t dare tell him how much I hate having sex because that would devastate him (I know I would be if my husband told me he hated having sex with me). So when we are intimate, I try to pretend that I’m enjoying it and moan for him to turn him on so he can hurry up and finish. The other night he could sense that I wasn’t myself and I simply told him that it’s not really enjoyable for me because I have no libido and it sucks.

But when I tell you that I hate sex right now... I really hate it. Like I can’t wait for it to be over, I’m angry that we are even doing it and I feel violated even if Im the one that initiated it because I am tired of hearing him say how I never do. Has anyone else gone through this? What did you do?