Please be kind... may be a little tmi..

Idk what to do. My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years. Hes the sweetest guy, no complaints there as he treats me like a princess. Hes a hard worker, has a great family that he loves and he loves my family too. But we lack in the bedroom. Like, so bad. I dont know what to do. I've talked about sex therapy before, he says he doesnt want to do it. I've tried to teach him what I like too and he doesnt do anything. I've tried to take the lead and he doesnt like when i do. We have been ttc for 2 years and it just feels like a chore. 😭😭 this hurts so bad to say because I love him and our relationship is great in every other aspect other than this. I'm laying here right now full of anxiety because we just tried to talk about it and he got super defensive, threw in the "fine, next time I'll change and itll be different" which I've heard a million times. This is all pretty much tmi and I'm sorry but I'm scared its ruining our marriage. We have sex, he lasts less than 5 minutes every single time, cleans and leaves the room. Doesnt help me, doesnt cuddle with me, doesnt treat me like I'm desirable at all 😭😭 I dont know what to do anymore. Even outside of sex, there is no intimacy. He doesnt like to make out, especially with tongue, he hates it. Every kiss is just little pecks and it's now becoming annoying too. I dont want sex to be all about marriage but he has to understand that it's a big part of it, especially when ttc! Ughhh what do I do?