😒 idk how to get my bf to help me orgasm

Ok so like I been having trouble with orgasming during sex with my boyfriend. For the past 5 years, I've been blaming it on me, that it was my body that couldn't do it.🙁 But I came to realize that my boyfriend doesn't put in a lot of effort to make me feel good during sex.😬 He will only give me foreplay when I ask for it, and he's really impatient so he always finishes first.😒 It's frustrating but like, I'm not even sure how to start having him help me explore what's gonna work for me. He has agreed that he has not been very good at helping me achieve and want to put effort in it. But like, where and how do I start...🤔