Maybe me being sensitive?

So I've been dating this guy for 2 months but have known him for 5 years. Yet I feel like I can't be 100% myself around him. Around the beginning he'd wouldn't really say things about my body but would kinda make questions that I guess would trigger cuz I've always been body conscious and I'd say why would you make those questions if you know how I feel about my body. And just other situations where you can obviously see he doesn't pay attention to anything I say. Another situation was when he had asked me if I was a virgin and I said why do you ask? Cuz that to me is personal and he said cuz I don't want anyone's second plate.

Even though HE isn't a virgin. That got me really pissed because I am a bit of a feminist so I said no but do you still I'd still want you? And he said that was different. Fast forward another situation we were on the call yesterday and I was studying for this huge exam I was taking the next day and he's always said I'm motherlike(ladies hands up if you agree that this instinct comes to all women naturally btw) and I said I don't see it that way it's more that I care about you. He then said sum else that I can't remember and I said so you don't think I'm humorous? He said not really. At this point I got irritated and I said okay I guess im not funny and boring and tense. So he said that me being "humorless" and "motherlike" was a huge turn off for him.

Like I'm sorry is anyone holding you against your own will to be with me? I don't think so. So I said okay a guy who doesn't care for his education and can't control his drinking is a huge turn off for me.

He said okay next time I just won't say anything. I said no it's fine I'm glad I know. So I guess I am tense around him but only cuz when I'm with him and I try to talk to him about something he'll look at me as if I'm crazy cuz we have clashed before. And he's so quiet it makes me anxious. I'm a naturally outspoken shameless person and I feel like I can't be like that around him cuz he's got a different vibe. He can't be weird with me he's just... stiff and if drives me nuts. This is the first relationship I've put effort in so I really need the advice.