I’ve been trying to orgasm for a few years now and it seems like every time I try, I almost get there. I’ve stimulated myself for a solid 30 minutes building up pressure and my legs will shake and it feels great, but no push over the edge. I don’t get any sort of warm fuzzies, no relaxation, no extra wetness... nothing.

I have been in a pretty bad place for a while at home. My mother was emotionally and financially abusive. I’m free from her clutches now, but I still have some emotional wounds. I’ve gone to some therapy about it too.

I hear that emotional stability is key to an orgasm. Is that true? Is my emotional distress stopping me from orgasming?