Really confused about husband

My husband and I are not TTC yet. I would like to get a little farther in my career and maybe move back towards our parents for childcare help. I have been off birth control and charting for 6 months now. We both know we want to be parents some day, but the timing is not ideal now. We both agree on this.

Yesterday we were having sex and he pulled out and came on my vulva. I was not fertile, 2 days before my period, but he didnt ask me where I was during my cycle. Next thing I knew, he had used his penis and pushed his cum inside me and i pushed him off right away. I was upset because he had no idea if i was fertile at the time or not. What if i was!? All he has to do was ask and I would have let him finish in me because I am absolutely positive I was long past ovulation, but WHAT THE FUCK!?

I asked him if he wants a baby now and he said no 🤦‍♀️

I just feel like he betrayed my trust. Any advice?

ETA: I cant take hormonal birth control for a clotting disorder and I tried the copper IUD and was allergic. I told DH that protection is up to him and bought a box of condoms but he wont use them.