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No whenever mine cries while someone's holding her she nearly comes hurdling back at me, but if nothing else you could tell her that when she gets too worked up she's harder to settle and you'd rather she hands her back for you to comfort and then she can have her again. Then take the baby and run to another room.
Too stressful!
So just curious if anyone else has to deal with this and how you deal....
A little back story, my sister in law and her husband desperately want a baby (she has an 8 yr old from a previous relationship) and they recently found out he’s sterile and she has a low egg count. So everyone kinda walks on eggshells because she so desperately wants a baby.....in the meantime she is obsessed with my daughter and here’s the thing...my daughter isn’t super comfortable with her. She cries a lot with her. They were over tonight and my daughter was fussy with her but fine when I was holding her. My sister in law will take her and not give her back even when she’s screaming leaving me having to either let her cry or forcibly take her back which is obviously what I opt to do. It’s so stressful and frustrating for me and I feel like my husband lets her get away with it because he feels bad that she can’t get pregnant. When someone else has the baby and she starts crying I’ll give it a hot minute to see if she will settle but when she doesn’t stop crying I want my baby back, everyone else respects that even my mother in law. I have a fairly good relationship with my sister in law normally but after tonight I’m irritated and stressed out at what went down. Anyone else deal with anything like this?
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I may sound harsh saying thus, it's cry unfortunate that she can't have children I can't imagine that feeling. But you're a mum, you can't let her get away with certain things just because she can't have children herself. If your baby cries with her the first thing you want to do is comfort your baby and that shouldn't change just because of her circumstances. With my family if my son cries they hand him back. But my partners parents they don't hand him back and he cries the majority of the time with them. I try to get him back but they don't hand him back! And it's the most hardest thing ever to watch your son cry because someone's holding him who he doesn't want to, and he's looking at me the whole time wanting me. Eventually when I get him back he stops instantly. And they know soon as they pass him back to me he will stop but they're selfish. It fucking kills me. We've tried saying polity if he cries just hand him back to me and I'll calm him instantly but with them we can't say shit because they take it the wrong way and we end up having arguments!!! It's probably best for your partner to try and have a word and just be like look, if he gets fussy hand the baby back to their mum. I'm sorry you have to put up with this, I'm in the exact same shoes and i fucking hate it when I can't help my own son because my in laws are too selfish!!
Me
Lol that’s totally fine. You are so right, it is the worst feeling to watch your baby cry knowing that you could stop it in an instant. Also when you say they are selfish, you are so spot on!! That’s exactly what it is. She has been known to turn away when I reach for my daughter!! After they left the other night and my daughter ended up having a rough night I told my husband no more. She cries and is upset, we take her back the end. Thanks for your advice, Im sorry you go through it too but it does feel good to hear from someone else who gets it.
Sh
Sorry or the typo at the start I don't know what happened there lol. And the fact I said he when you have a daughter. It's just a habit because I have a son.
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