So my boyfriend and I are very open and talked about everything. Including exes.

His last ex was years ago but was his friend for years before girlfriend and he has told me that they are still friends and shouldn't have dated. Which okay I guess I get that but what bothers me is that he says that but has also told me they had sex and it was more than once...

How can something "shouldn't have happened" but you succeeded in making that mistake many times over?

Granted she is with someone else now and expecting a baby some day. And she has both of us added to facebook where my boyfriend is "friends" with her. They very rarely talk. And he promised me if she ever sent him anything he would show me first thing.

But it still bothers me. Am I wrong for being bothered by this? And how can I overcome this? I literally don't even want to speak to her because I'm afraid I won't be able to say anything nice.

Should I try talking to her anyway? Would that help things? Should I avoid talking about my boyfriend/ her ex? Its kinda the only thing I know about her.

Idk I just don't want to be jealous. Its driving insane. I feel all stalkish and tense sometimes. And my jealousy is killing my sex drive. Not to mention making it more stressful for moving and looking for a job and everything... I have too much on my plate for this jealousy bullshit. How can I turn it off?