Anxiety Sex?

Question

Right so hear me out 👏🏻
I posted a while back about having anxiety attacks during sex and it being so bad that for a while I avoided having sex at all. I couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me until I realised that every time I thought of sex I could feel the same feelings that I felt years ago when I was caught by my mum watching porn 😳 I was so distraught by this and to this day I cant think about it without freaking out.

Has anyone had this happen to them? Is it normal to be having panic attacks years and years after something kinda scarring happened? Is there anyway that I can fix this? 
It’s ruining me and my boyfriend of 6 years relationship and I feel like I’m pushing him away because of it. I just want to feel like a normal person happy with both having sex and their sexuality 😭

Answer

Have you been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder? You may have to go talk to someone about this to get through it

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So this happens to people who didn’t have understanding parents. 
It’s a lingering feeling of shame you felt from your mom. 
Maybe talking to your mom about it will help you to get over it. 
Porn, sex, and self love is all natural and everyone explores. 
I know after I lost my virginity my mom shamed me and i was shocked because she and I had such a close relationship. 
After that I couldn’t bring myself to have sex for a long while. 
I talked to her about it and she admitted she always thought she handled it the wrong way. 
And then I was fine to have sex and have a normal healthy sex life. 
Hope this helps!

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I am sorry you are having this problem
 
First things first, you need to address the problem. The way I address my anxieties is understanding that I can’t control everything. That time you were caught was an accident, it happened, and it’s done and over with it. All you can do now is move on, and just the make the best of it. Get back to the time where you could freely enjoy yourself
I’d suggest seeing a therapist to talk through this. Don’t avoid the problem or avoid thinking about the episode, that’s the only way you can get over it.

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