So basically I got out of a really abusive relationship. My ex is straight up crazy which I’ll explain a little further.

Basically I had been trying to leave for about 2 months, in my mind I kind of knew after this one particular fight I was done.

About 2 years ago I worked at a restaurant and met this really nice guy, we had a little fling nothing serious and never had sex or anything we just missed at work a few times before I suddenly quit and went somewhere else. Anyways this is the nice guy I’m talking about.

Fast forward to now

I’m starting to try to heal and actually cut off completely 100% from my ex. In the mean time I ended up going back to work at my old job where my old fling aka nice guy still works. Things kinda happened and we hit it off again, I can’t help it he is just the most sweet caring guy.

We hung out for the first time out of work (our fling 2 years ago really wasn’t serious at all) and it was just really nice to be with someone who seemed to kinda have a similar heart like I do. It’s the little things that I’ve started to notice that make me feel cared about for instance after we hung out I told how I hate drinking water and I talked about how I need to be better and start drinking it more now everyday when I go into work I have a bottle of water waiting for me at my host stand, I also love to smoke and so he always gives me his vape pen at work, my car isn’t working right now and he’s been really generous and giving me rides even when it inconveniences him.

I guess though I should also mention he’s going through a break up as well. Part of me feels with my abusive relationship I feel his niceness is just to get to me, or that because of his breakup and being cheated on multiple times he just wants somebody. But then the other part of me sees how he cares about me, asks me if I’ve ate, gets me food before or after work, just seems to really care and listen to all the stupid things I want to rant about, and kinda just gets my heart. Then again I feel like maybe the spark isn’t there? Sometimes I feel as bough something could be missing there...is it him being ‘too nice’ or really me just being attracted to dysfunctional men and relationships? Sometimes I like to fantasize and think we could possibly have it all together one day we both make really good money at our jobs, we constantly talk about how we essentially want the same things and have the same interests, and I know he does this as well and feels the same.

Now the final thing I should mention is my narcissistic ex who physically,mentally,and emotionally abused me has started to now try to get me back. Coincidentally after me and nice guy hung out the next day a few gifts and a love letter was left on my pouch urging me to unblock my ex’s number which I didn’t think of the timing of everything at first. Later on that day I went to work and nice guy got a text from a weird number I recognized from a fake number my ex uses from a app and the text sent to nice guy said ‘I’m your worst fucking nightmare karma is a bitch’ and another text from him said ‘wow bro are you selling all that weed let me buy it from you’

Basically I talked to my ex briefly and confirmed he was literally stalking me, he admitted it and proved it to me by telling me what I was wearing at work and what not but I didn’t let him know I knew about the message he sent to nice guy. I’ve made sure to be 100% open, honest, and transparent with nice guy about my situation.

I guess now I’m really afraid and confused about maybe continuing spending time with nice guy because I’m afraid of what my ex would do....I’m afraid that possibly he could’ve broken into nice guys car, or home and saw his weed stash and then mentioned the weed he had via text to kinda scare him? Like letting him know he’s invaded his personal space?

I just wanted to take my time with nice guy, enjoy each other’s company and not be intimate sexually. Maybe see where things would go? It just feels so nice to be treated nicely