This will be our second Valentine’s Day for my boyfriend and me. The first one I was expecting a low key celebration and he went all out with gifts, he made dinner, homemade chocolate covered strawberries, he drew us a bath. It was very sweet and romantic and out of left field. So this year, I told him that it was very sweet and I appreciated it but i would be happy if we just got to have a date or something simple bc we never go on dates and I don’t feel like V Day needs to be just for my benefit.

Then he asks me if I would be willing to do something special for him like what he did for me for Valentine’s last year and I was kind of taken back bc I wasn’t expecting that and I thought we had just agreed that dinner would be a great idea. Then he follows up and says that an ex of his did something special for Valentine’s Day for him once and he really loved it.

Okay...well now I don’t want any part of it.. i would never tell him, oh my ex did this thing for me and i thought it was great, can you do what he did??? Like what? On top of that, I now feel pressured like she did this great, special thing for him and he wants me to live up to this memory. Now I don’t know what to do. I really don’t want to do it, my heart’s not in it thinking about whatever his ex did but I don’t want him to feel salty about if it I really decide not to do it. What should I do?