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Nope not at all. I feel you. I wonder why you’re on a TTC forum at all when you didn’t have to try to conceive 🙄 just go straight to the pregnancy forum and let us all struggle with infertility in peace. I’m cool with anyone who tried for at least 5-6 cycles, because they probably started to feel a littlnofnwhat we feel.
Does Anyone Else Get Irritated With First Month Success Stories Even Though You Are Happy For Them?
I have been trying for 15 months so probably I am fatigued haha but I am so happy for each and every person that gets a positive pregnancy test but I have to admit I get a little sore about the people gloating about it just took them one month or it being their first month trying. No other amount bothers me but the one monthers 🤣. Like I know it is their story and they have every right to tell it and be happy but I can admit I’m just a little bitter about it 😐🤣. Anyone else or am I just a monster?
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Al
I think most of us feel the same. Sending you hugs!
Le
I think some people just sign up as soon as they remove the barrier and some of them manage to get pregnant quickly. I can accept that but it definitely doesn’t feel like trying if you never had to feel the angst and disappointment of AF coming to me at least once. Some people are very lucky and perhaps I am just jealous it is taking me such a long time to get my baby 😢
Lol hate those posts mostly because at the bottom of it there is always the whole " i tried preseed, prenatal vitamins (all standard things us ttcers have been doing for a long time) !dont give up it will happen!!". I sound like an asshole but it's just so irritating. I love seeing the 1yr + success stories though.
Le
I know!!! It’s like ok...we got it. It was easy for you. Now let me just go lay in the corner and swallow my prenatals and cry thanks
id
Totally agree. To me it comes off as condescending but I'm sure that's my own bias. The " it happened when we least expect it after 2 months of trying "people make me wanna scream though 🤣
Le
Yea I really hate any post where people explain what they did honestly like they discovered the secret formula for pregnancy. I get some people share to give others hope but people also need to accept a lot of this is just plain out of our control sadly. So inserting cups, prenatals and Preseed ain’t doing it for all of us
It took us 13 months of trying after a miscarriage to get pregnant and the worst thing I kept hearing after our miscarriage was “it’ll happen again, we got pregnant right away after ours!” Every month was more depressing then the last, this time we’re on our 3rd month of trying which I know isn’t long but I do know what it’s like to have to hear those stories of people who got pregnant that first month when you’ve been trying for what seems like a lifetime. It is frustrating
Le
Yes it just feels like gloating even if they are not. I have seen so many announcements that are people who just took one month. Wish I could have that experience. Heck just give me this month!
In a similar position to you. We are TTC for our rainbow baby and having no luck. Each month is a heart break and in the last week we’ve heard two announcements where the couples weren’t trying and one always used to say she never wanted a baby. My husband says “it’s another oops I tripped and fell pregnant story”.It’s hard to be happy when the only thing you want is just not happening. This month is really hitting me hard. Don’t feel like it’s ever going to happen.
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