Wow. Okay if all you say is true then you need to be out. No matter your gender, forcing and manipulating and isolating your partner is not okay and is abusive. I don’t think I’ve seen the exact post but many like it and it’s not okay behavior and not even a relationship. At bare minimum you need trust and there is nothing without trust.

So get out now, make sure you have a good record (texts, emails, etc) and see about a restraining order and what to do about the threatened blackmail.

A little PSA here: this is indeed abusive behavior. I know it assumes gender here but this chart of abuse in relationships has a lot of things to say about the above. Pay attention to the psychological, emotional, and isolation areas of the chart.

I don’t care who you are, that behavior is not ducking okay.