Ok so I need some serious help please. I need to know everyone's opinion about something I've been struggling with. I know that there are men out there who abuse their girlfriends daily physically and mentally but is it normal if it only gets violent sometimes and only during an argument? Like if when they are not fighting he's super sweet but when they are fighting he chokes her, or head butts her, or hits walls and puts holes or cracks in them. Is that her fault that she made him that mad? Is that how most relationships are? And if she did fight back does she deserve it, but she is only 5' 2" 86lbs and he is 5' 10" 170lbs. Please help me!!! I don't need to hear legalities cause she is no longer with him because the fighting. Also would like to add it has been a couple years since he last head butted her but he has got in her face screamed and punched walls and doors. I just need to know that she's not crazy and this was not how relationships really are.