Hi strangers on the Internet! I just turned 30 and I’m having middle school problems with the girls I grew up with haha. Long story short, I have never really fit in with them. It’s a group of 7 girls and I’ve always kind of been a tag along, afterthought. Well, during/ after college, they remained in the small town where we grew up, and I moved about 3 hours away. They still include me in the group chats and invite me to cookouts and their kids birthday parties and whatnot, but if I’m there they barely talk to me, it might take them two hours before they ask me how I’ve been or anything about my life.

Now I know I should just move on, but part of me doesn’t want them to “win” because if I stop talking to them, they are absolutely going to say “well she just thinks she’s better than us.” I know I shouldn’t care and I should move on with my life, but I still have such a deep sense of loyalty to my childhood friends and I don’t know why.

These girls can just be mean. There were several snarky remarks at my bachelorette party, even AT MY WEDDING one of them asked why I was smiling so much 🙃. And the latest salt in the wound was in a group text conversation. We were talking about coming to visit one of them who is due to have baby #2 this week. One girl said “oh Mindy and Lauren should pick a day we can all visit since they live the farthest away!” And I’m over here reading the text like, no that’s me! I’m 3 hours away! Why do y’all always forget me? I don’t respond because I don’t know what to say.

I don’t even know why I’m telling strangers on the internet haha. Just needing some validation I guess. I know I need to just stop talking to them because I get my feelings hurt every time I do, but 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don’t know why they have such power over me.

Any empowerment/ advice/ inspiration/ tough love is appreciated haha😊