They don’t understand

I have terrible anxiety and I have a really hard time speaking up , I went to go get my nails done i was never asked what shape I wanted so I got square and i hate square , I tried telling my mom who was there with with me and she told me to say something but I’m by the time I got the courage to ask it was to late , I’m really upset about my nails and don’t want anyone at school to see me with them , I told my mom I want to try to soak them off and she told me that if i took them off she would take my phone away , she told me I have to leave them on for a month , she said I need to learn my lesson to speak up , btw I payed for my nails not her

But I’m so frustrated that she doesn’t understand that punishing me won’t make my anxiety go away there isn’t a lesson that will make it go away

In fact it makes it worse , I have a hard time doing these things as it is , and if I’m going to get punished when I don’t speak up i just won’t put myself on that position again, and I will stop going places again ,