Handling fake friends

Hey y’all,

I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, within this time I’ve grown closer to his friends. The only problem that I’ve had difficulty overcoming is that they are in the same friend circle as his ex. We’ll call her Voldemort. My bf and his friends have known each other for a very long time and they all have been going to the same spot for years basically a real life version of ‘Friends’, “Central Perk”.

Naturally, I’ve hung out with them there many times. I’d say half of the time Voldemort is there. Although, neither my boyfriend or myself have had a care in the world that she’s there. The problem I’m facing is that I didn’t know whether or not to trust his friends. Because even though to me they’ll say bad things about her and how they don’t want to hang out with her, a few days later I see them hanging out. They’ll say without me asking “she just came to sit with me” or “I’m not going to be dick to her, I’m still going to be nice”. I always found this weird bc I never once have asked about her, they just happen to tell me.

There’s a particular friend who I felt had a good friendship growing. We’ll call her Venom. Venom always seemed to bring Voldemort up in conversation and not in a good way. I’m guessing this was her strange way of trying to reassure me. So imagine my surprise when yesterday I find out that she’s basically been telling Voldemort information about me and my boyfriend. I’ve always made it a point to never tell Venom personal info just bc i was weary of this whole situation. A friend told us not to trust Venom bc even though she says she’s not actually friends with Voldemort, she’s lying. She tells Voldemort things like places we go, how we act with each other, our plans.

Now the real issue here is, we can’t really confront her without throwing our friend under the bus. We can’t really distance ourselves bc the people who got to their version of “central perk” are basically who he considers his family. Venom and Voldemort will always be there.

Basically my question to y’all is

Should I:

A.) Take her down Kim K style. Tell Venom a piece of information and if it “mysteriously” gets to Voldemort’s ear and Voldemort ends up angrily venting and telling everyone (as per usual). We can actually confront Venom and just finally cut ties with the both of them by not having to communicate or hear about Voldemort drama that we really don’t care for.

B.) Handle it Michelle Obama style. “When they go low we go high”. This would mean kill them with kindness. Be cordial and just keep everything to ourselves just knowing we can’t trust her. This would mean Venom would still be in our friend circle but at a distance.