I announced and I wish I hadn’t.

I announced yesterday to family and friends on social media. Close friends and family were told this past weekend, so we put up a little announcement yesterday to tell everyone else. It’s our second baby, and we wanted to keep it simple. It also so happened to be my husband’s late grandfather’s birthday, which we mentioned.

I will preface what I am about to say by saying I love my mother. She and I live close, my son adores her, I pay her to watch him while I work, and for the most part we have a generally good relationship. Yesterday proved otherwise for a moment. I noticed she didn’t like or comment on my post. For most, this wouldn’t matter, but my mother is obsessed with social media and uses it to manipulate.

When she didn’t like or comment, I knew something was wrong.

When I reached out to her, she said the following:

She didn’t actually end up replying so I called her.

She was upset that we mentioned my husband’s DEAD grandfather’s birthday. And she was upset that my father-in-law commented that he was happy we announced because it helped make a difficult day a happy day.

I’m legitimately confused and hurt.

It was our announcement, and it was one small moment for my pregnancy to be about me and my husband - telling everyone we’re expecting #2.

She told me she was upset she wasn’t acknowledged or thanked. Also upset that I didn’t tag her. I didn’t tag her when we announced with my son, and I don’t understand why I’d tag anyone else but the father of my unborn child. She couldn’t tell me why I should be thanking her. My husband thinks it’s because she thinks she should be thanked for giving birth to me to make it all possible. I genuinely can’t make this shit up.

My announcement was ruined for me.

I just want to delete it and pretend it never happened.

Cherry on top, the sister-in-law I have who is due two weeks before me pretended to be fine with me and our pregnancy all weekend while we were in town but didn’t acknowledge, comment or like our announcement but DID scour the comments to interject anytime she could about her own pregnancy (responding to family talking about my baby by mentioning her own).

I am ready to purge all social media.

I’m just done.