Verbal abuse

Sorry for the title. The past few weeks whenever I help my hubby by with jobs (I was helping him feed a calf by bottle) or go anywhere just the two of us he starts yelling at me saying “your numb past feeling”!or when I fail and a job helping him he yells and says he has to pretend I don’t exist to do good in his work (he owns his own tractor/mechanic shop.) also says I’m lazy

And “no wonder the kids don’t do anything for you!”it makes me feel unneeded and put down. To a point I don’t want to help him anymore. How do I tell him it hurts my feelings? Also he want me to go to the movies with him and have an orgasm there. I’m furious I want to go to movies but feel odd or just I’m a trophy not a person he loves.