advice/opinions please!!

I am not working at the moment.

I got a job offer through an old coworker and my moms friend. I was a receptionist at my moms job like 2 years ago.

He called my mom to ask me if I wanted a job. He offered me a job to start on Monday and do the paper work on Friday. I called him to discuss it and didn’t even think of myself as always I put myself before others.

After I said sure we can do paperwork on Friday my so came home and we discussed me working at this job and he brought up really good points of why it’s not a good idea. I started crying to him because I told him I really didn’t wanna take the job but felt forced because he reached out to my mom and my mom is making me feel like I HAVE too.

The job is an hour and a half commute from where I live. The pay is only 13.

I live 4 cities away from where the job is. I didn’t think about the wear and tear of my car. We also bought a house a year ago and it’s not like we can get up and move we’re closer. We are not struggling for money. We’re very financially stable... my so says he doesn’t think it’s a great idea I travel that far for work everyday. I just bought a new car and I’m planing to have my car last me quite a few years and I don’t wanna replace a car in 3 years. It’s about 100 miles there and back everyday and I’d have to wake up at 4:30 am and get there at 6 am work all the way till 4:30 pm which in the city it’s in the 4-5pm traffic is terrible. I already have anxiety in general but overall I just don’t feel comfortable..

my so says he supports anything I wanted to do and if I really wanted to do it then he’d support me but he doesn’t think it’s logical spending most of my money on gas & maintenance of my car and doesn’t feel comfortable having me drive so far everyday.

So I texted my mom saying I don’t think taking this job is logical... and she’s freaking out on me. I feel like I’m forced to do this job.. I already worked around the corner from this new job and I never saw my so. I woke up at 4:30 and came home at 3:30-4 sometimes 5 and would come home and just sleep until I had to get up the next day and go back but when I was working at this job where I met this old coworker I didn’t do anything and I lived closer and now I live farther.

What do I do? I understand my mom wants the best for me but I am truly not comfortable taking this job because the risk out weighs the benefits. I don’t even live with my mom and she’s already texted and calling yelling at me and stuff... I don’t see the issue. I don’t live with my parents and me and my so make a good living right now so even if I didn’t take this job things would be okay?