Am I insane or is he a douche? LONG..

So me and my daughter went on a little vacation out of the country for exactly a week. My husband knew about it and helped me plan it. He couldnt go along because he just started a new job. While Im gone he's going out almost everyday and hanging out with friends, which I encouraged so he wouldn't feel lonely. We talked everyday while I was gone, video calls, texts...

Before I left, we were having some problems and I told him to think about his priorities and what he wants from our marriage. I asked him to use our time apart as time to think about us and our family. The last few days of my vacation he tells me he only wants his family and he misses us , blah blah blah.... I thought maybe he had really thought about our life together.

Fast forward to today. I come home and the house is a mess (he's at work). I mean torn up and upside down mess. I was thinking WTF?!! I had the baby with me and he was all alone and he couldn't even put away his laundry?! I let it slide and didn't mention it. I came down with bug the night before we left (last night) so Im feeling like shit on top of having a toddler who is throwing tantrums left and right because she feels crappy too. I told him I felt like crap.

When he saw us he declared his love and was being all sweet. He helped me run some errands and said all he wanted was to go home and sleep and cuddle my daughter and me. One of the errands included picking up a car from his cousins house. I head home with our daughter (also sick) and start unpacking our target run and other things. He said he would follow right after.

2 hours go by and he wasnt home yet. I call him and he says he stayed behind to hang out! I was livid.

MF'er, you know Im sick, our daughter is sick, I have to unload and unpack nd you think its okay to stay out and hang out?!

I told him off and hung up (I didnt yell or cuss). He still took another 45min to get home (he was 10min away). He has the nerve to walk in and tell me Im crazy nd shouldn't be mad. I sent his ass to the couch and refuse to talk to him.

Am I out of my mind or am I the least bit justified for my reaction?