long post, I’m sorry. My mother in law is extremely mentally unwell. My in laws live in a disgusting house and when I say disgusting, I mean that it should be condemned. I am 25 weeks pregnant and my son will NOT be allowed at their house but I am worried about her coming to our house to see him due to the disgust that she should would be bringing with her. They have 2 indoor cats and no litter box. They have rodents. They have a large dog that isn’t house trained and goes in the house. She never cleans any of it up. There is so much mold that my husband had an immediate asthma attack the minute he walks into the house. She doesn’t do laundry because it is in the basement and she states that it is too hard for her to do laundry. She sleeps on a mattress with no sheets and it is disgusting. Her hair is greasy and crusty. She just doesn’t take care of herself. I spoke to my husband about my reservations and he got irritated because he wants his father to be able to see our son but because of her, he also lives in a pig sty. I don’t know how to address it with her but I don’t want my child to be exposed to such dangerous things. Should I keep a robe over at my house for them? Or just flat out say that they can’t come if they aren’t clean? Remember, according to her, it is our fault that the house is so dirty because WE aren’t there to clean it. She has been known to call the cops when she doesn’t get her way and while I am not afraid of her, she has thrown plates and knives at my husband before. The further my pregnancy progresses, the more worried I get. My husband isn’t even concerned about her being able to see our son but we both want his dad to be able to. Any advice??