*sorry for such a long post*

So right now I am 22 weeks pregnant and I am faced in a hard position on what I should do about toxic family members and my son (who I’m pregnant with). Now I love my fiancé very much but his family (really his mom and brother) since they found out I was pregnant they have talked down on me and his mom even told me I ruined their life and that getting pregnant was all my fault! They talk about my parenting choices (example: when I told them I wanted to breast feed his mom replied “if you breast feed you will make that baby a retard”) His family tries to get my fiancé to leave me and move back in with them. His mother had a hard time with me being around and excepting our son.

So fast forward to present time: we were at our gender reveal and well let’s just say his mom and brother made an HUGE SCENE over us deciding to name our son with two middle names. it was such a big fight that my fiancé’s brother decided to leave and then text my fiancé a bunch or rude and nasty messages about me and the family. A couple weeks later I give them another chance and while we went out to eat his mother started being so racist and negative and it especially bothered me since my friend (who dates a African American) was sitting with us. I politely moved me and my friend away and tried to get her out of that awkward situation. This didn’t settle well with his mother and she starts yelling and insulting me in the restaurant because it was offensive that I “ignored” her.

This is a constant reoccurrence with him and his family talking down on me and cussing and screaming at me and my whole pregnancy so far has been stressful because his family is constantly putting me down and is yelling at me for things that are unnecessary or things they don’t agree with. I have started to decide to remove his family out of our sons life because of so much negativity and irrational behavior and also I feel like if they disrespect me now they will do it in front of my son and I don’t want him to feel it’s okay to disrespect me. Also we have tried sitting them down and talking to them about this but nothing changes. We are now faced with the question of letting his family come to the hospital because this is our first child and I feel like I’m going to need to relax and not be so stressed but again this is hard especially for my fiancé. So now the big question, do I remove my son from his family and the negativity or let them be around our son and keep me and his family problems between us? Would I be in the wrong or to harsh for cutting them out? (I have a hard time letting my child be around negativity because of my personal childhood experiences.) Am I wrong to not let his family come to the hospital when he is born? Am I just overthinking this whole situation? Does anyone else have a similar experience?

*picture of my son just because* 💙