I snooped through his Facebook messenger and I found a weird conversation. He doubled messaged this girl who wasn’t responding to his previous messages and she responded by saying she was tired of him taking her for granted and what not, my husband then goes ahead and says this:

“But I’m still married sometimes I can’t talk, it’s not a great marriage but it’s marriage and as long as I’m in it then I’m committed. And when I’m with my kids they need to come first too”

Then she said that she didn’t need to be reminded that he was married and that she didn’t want to pull him away from his kids and that she was done with conversation.

So then my fucking husband responds to her saying “sorry” and messages her again 3 days later asking where they stood and that it was important to recognize their relationship and that it’s “got to be friends” then she went on about how she was fine with that but she didn’t want to feel like an after thought to him. And he explained why she wasn’t and that he was just busy at work and kids that’s why he didn’t text back and that he was sorry about his reactions few days later.

And I’m just sitting here like what do I even yell at him for because he’s telling her they’re friends but the fact that he’s checking on her after a fight and seeing where they’re at is alarming ....