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I’d ignore her, stop arguing with her, and just return the stuff you get that doesn’t match. Some people think they know everything and no point in arguing with them.
Mother in law rant. 🙄
My mother in law is trying to tell me I can’t buy anything for my baby until after my baby shower so I don’t buy something some else bought me. I didn’t plan on buying a bunch of stuff until then anyways except for the nursery and she’s trying to tell me I can’t even buy that stuff. She thinks my theme is just deer heads and it’s not. I’m going for a boho/woodland/ greenery nursery. I don’t want people buying me stuff for the nursery because I want everything to match the theme I’m going for. She told me that I can’t control everything with my baby and I told her that she got to control her kids so let me control mine. I’m literally at my wit ends with her trying to tell me what I can and can’t do. Does anyone else have this crazy of a MIL?
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Just buy what you want it’s your money and your baby. Just return any thing that’s unnecessary. It’s not really up to your mother in law what you do with your money.
Na
Also I’ve had to cancel my gender reveal and baby shower due to my mother
Na
I understand you there my mother is the definition of controlling. She’s invited her self her the week I’m due.
Ca
I can’t stand that she’s trying to “control” what I do with my baby. I get she’s excited because it’s her first grandchild but still she got to do that she wanted to with her own kids!
People always asked me what the theme of the nursery was and I told them we didn’t have a theme & we don’t really have a nursery anyway. We’re buying a house soon so I’ll do it then when the baby will actually be using that room. 🤷🏼‍♀️ they thought it was weird but tbh I’m the same way as you. One of the privileges of being a parent is decorating your baby’s nursery how you want. Just ignore her and if anyone asks what the theme is just say you’re already set on decorations.
Me
Totally understandable!
Ca
Like I don’t mind her helping but for the nursery I want to pick out what I want and if she wants to buy it that’s fine but as long as I pick it out!
Me
People always want to help but when it comes to the nursery I think that’s something mom and dads should do. It’s a very sentimental and bonding moment I feel like. I also am in the interior design field so I’m super picky on top of nesting lol. My boyfriends family is always trying to pass off clutter to us and I’m like leave me alone!
Bah ah I would be like other then my self my baby is the exception of who I can indeed control 🤷🏻‍♀️ just saying . But I would ignore her. Shoot I had a lot of stuff pre baby but didn’t have any thing double except my swings which works or great bc he is picky
Ca
I don’t mind her helping and buying stuff but for the nursery I want to pick everything out and if she wants to buy it that’s fine. She’s also doing a nursery at her own house so I don’t understand why she won’t let me do what I want at my house and she can do what she wants at her house!
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Yeah I mean it’s not worth arguing about I mean the thought of trying to be helpful is nice . She’s probably just as excited and wants to help but going about it wrong. Just smile an go about your day when she gives you something
Ca
I guess I will just have to do that because I’m tired of arguing with her
Could it be because maybe she bought those things for you and is trying to not spill the beans? Mother in-laws can be frustrating. I want to pull my hair out over her at times, but try to remember it’s out of love for our baby.
Ja
Well, get what you want. Even if you would happen to get duplicates from your shower you can return/exchange and MIL can just shush 🤫
Ca
Could be but she doesn’t know all the stuff I want for the nursery so I don’t think she would buy anything yet
Oh girl I can’t even talk about my MIL without my blood boiling. We are finally at a point where she just doesn’t come around anymore. However, I do get the “wait till after the shower” BUT if you do get duplicates you can exchange those items. You will end up with waaaaaaaay more stuff from your shower than you’ll ever need and chances are you won’t use half of it. Buy some stuff if you’d like but don’t go crazy because a lot of the stuff is just a marketing ploy and you’ll never use it. I would actually suggest waiting for some things until after the baby is born. Example I got a bouncer thing for one of my gifts, I opened it set it up and it was months before baby was big enough for it and he hated it but I could even return it. I wish I would have waited to open and buy some things till he was at the appropriate age. We have this “I need this” mentality and in reality we don’t. Like wipe warmers- pointless.
Ca
Mine says she’s gonna buy us the stroller and car seat and then I show her the one I want and she’s like I like the other colors better. Like it doesn’t matter what you lien it’s what I want with MY BABY!
Br
My MIL bought us some big items like my jogging stroller and car seat which was nice but not the ones I wanted. Then for years and to this dad she holds it over our heads and tells people “how much she’s done for us.. including all of the things she bought” it’s so annoying. I wish she wouldn’t have bought us a damn thing.
Ca
Sometimes I can’t stand her and other times are fine. Since I got pregnant however I can not stand her! I get she’s excited since it’s her first grandchild but come on! And I didn’t plan on buying anything for her except for just the nursery stuff (decoration, bedding, etc.) and everything else I was just gonna wait till after the baby shower and see what I need
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