My nephew is in kindergarten, and he goes to a predominantly white school. He’s been obsessing over his hair lately and I caught him in the bathroom wetting his hair and trying to brush it straight. I asked him what he was doing and he said “I’m trying to make my hair go straight but I still have these little curls in the front” I never mentioned it to him but I really think he’s seeing all these white kids with straight hair and he’s trying to fit in. But I told him in a very happy and encouraging tone “oh my gosh, I love your hair! I love your curls, it makes you look so handsome!” But he still just really wants straight hair. This is hard for me and my family because we are all white, except my nieces are Mexican, but the adults are white, and we’re not sure if we’re supposed to help him “try” to make his hair straight or leave it be and let it fade out. I’m just worried with no matter what decision we make, he will continue to compare himself to other kids at school. And I don’t want that for him. He’s so handsome and such a sweet and lively boy! I want him to feel happy with just the way he is, because he really is perfect. He’s already gotten a faded hair cut this kindergarten school year because he didn’t want his curls to be there so we just let him do what made him happy and got his hair cut. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle these sorts of things? I just really don’t want him to grow up comparing himself to others white features and feel as if he needs to change anything about himself because he’s already so perfect!!

I’m putting this in the controversy corner because I feel as if this is a controversy within myself lol if there’s a better group for this post, let me know!

This is my nephew! ❤️