Afraid to have sex...

We have also lost a baby MIss Miscarriage and this pregnancy we couldn’t for while to to a Subcorionic Hemorrhage and then that healed at 9 weeks now we are 16+4 and we have had sex 2 or 3 times and then I find a pretty big clot in my under wear at work 2 days ago went straight to the ER to find out I have Multiple Venous Lakes which are veins on my placenta. Back to bed rest and pelviz rest until I see doctor suppose to be tomorrow but he doesn’t work mondays. The Er doc only wrote me a excuse until Monday so I’m don’t what to do! I’m so scared! I just wish we all could have pregnancies that are smooth sailing and not so scary!! I’m flipping wreck! And to top it there isn’t a lot of data on this issue.

That is EXACTLY how my husband and I feel. I’m 17+4 and we haven’t had sex since we found out either. We’ve talked about it multiple times and we both decided the risk of losing again/seeing blood isn’t worth it. I don’t know the “correct” answer but that’s how we feel.

I know everyone has worries but there’s no reason not to have sex. Sex does NOT cause miscarriage. But I have not felt like sex so we do it at least once a week sometimes twice. I’ve spotted twice after sex and I knew I would cuz I was really dry during sex even with lube. We just go slow and use more lube. I just had spotting last weds right after sex. Baby is fine as I used an at home Doppler and got the heartbeat. And even before I was pregnant I would bleed sometimes during sex

The likelihood of sex affecting your baby at all at this point is very very slim. I haven’t had sec since the positive test, but that’s more because my husband and I work opposite shifts. I’m sick every day. And we have a two year old son who can’t seem to stick to a sleeping schedule. I think you should talk to your doctor about your concerns. He/she might give you some helpful tips or alleviate your worries. This is a scary time. But sex is natural and healthy. It’s your decision really. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I just feel like sex and intimacy are important, especially at this time.

I havent had any bleeding, but i do notice increased discharge for a couple days after. ( I have had a scan after intercourse and all is well :) )

We haven't had sex since November. Neither one of us is willing to risk it. We're not going to have sex until after 32 weeks

Maybe just resort to intimacy in other forms until you feel ok about it.

We we’re very nervous in the first trimester due to a loss before. Better now but still not having sex as often. It’s changed for me now and honestly I don’t enjoy it as much. I think you’ve got to do what’s right for you and your partner xx

Nope. I’m not having sex either!

I can completely understand why you would be hesitant about it given your past. I’m so sorry❤️ I was worried about it too, so at our 12 week appt I asked our doctor about it and she said everything is great and we have zero restrictions with sex. I’m glad I asked because sex when pregnant is literally amazing. So much different from non pregnant sex lol but in a good way. For me at least 🤷🏻‍♀️ Do whatever you feel comfortable with mama!