Bed restraints...

So hubby and I have really great sex and I’m a total freak. I got us these bed restraints to use on ME!!! so I show it to him and he seemed unamused... so to spice things up I asked/begged to use it on him and I sooo did. But he didn’t reciprocate which was what I WANTED!!! We make sweet love but our thing is rough sex 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ we both like the spanking. I love when he spanks my ass and my pussy it drives me insane... I mean he likes to get choked/we have whips/nipples clamps/cuffs/and all the other goodies why won’t he do this for me?? Should I just ask?