Masturbation

Okay so I personally use a vibrator for clitoral stimulation. I recently bought a new toy for inserting/clitoral.

I have never been super active with masturbation or sex

I am not a virgin, I have had sec before but for some reason have had issues if I go without it and can't even have sex with my partner, because of plain.

So I am trying to use the toys to help me relax basically.

I have found I can't insert the toy, like I'm blocking it almost. I can stick fingers inside, and as soon as they go in, I don't know if it's supposed to be a straight shot, or is it normal for your fingers to go around something that feels to be in the way.

Personally I feel like I am tense and hard down there so it's hard to get anything inside. How can I relax? Everything is painful with insertion.

I have gone to the gyno, and they said I had a healthy normal vagina so I don't know what is going on.

Anyone have any advice?

Thank you!