So unfortunately my brother lives an another country. My husband and I have always helped out and sent him hundreds of dollars. Now he is close to coming back home through a visa and we all know it cost money. My mom, my stepdad, even my dad, my husband and I are helping each step of the way. In the last 3 weeks I’ve probably spent around $500 which probably isn’t a lot. But adds up. I don’t mind helping him. But here’s the thing I have a 3 month old and an 18 month old. I don’t have income coming in right now. My only source of income is my husband and that’s for our rent, cc bills, food, gas and formula for the little one. Btw we just moved so we had to buy furniture and we are little by little paying that off. So I just booked another air bnb for my brother for another week so he doesn’t have to stress or worry. He should be wrapping up his visa soon. I expressed to my mother that after this I can’t help him. Not because I don’t want to but because I don’t have it. I can’t stop paying for us to survive to help. Then she blows up on me and starts talking shit about my husband. Which has nothing to do with anything. She just hates him because he isn’t catholic. She acts very bipolar and immature. We want to help my brother but we have our own expenses. Do you think I’m terrible for saying enough is enough we don’t have money for extra expenses?

Btw I have even been applying for jobs but I have not found one yet. Because I wanted to help but what can I do if I haven’t found one.