Frustrated 😠

Sorry for the long post...

Sooo, hubby and I decided early on that we will not have a baby shower for two reasons 1) No one offered to help except my mom (who is very sick). And 2) rather then spending money on a party, we could spend it on the baby. So our minds we're set.

At this point EVERYONE is hounding us to have a baby shower, witch we don't care because we made up our minds and they aren't going to help us at the end of the day and it's not up to them. Well my mom asks us to please do something small as she was put on hospice and would like to celebrate her grandson. We understand this and agree a small sip and see when the baby get's here would be best.

We inform guests and save these dates are out! Wellllll, my MIL gets upset because she wanted to throw a baby shower for us because she didn't get to with our daughter. She said she would handle everything, so we won't have to worry about it financially. The only thing she did say was if my mom can buy the games and decorations because she didn't know how to do that, my mom was all to happy to help and that there is going to be a baby shower.

New save the dates go out and we think 'finally' we can just chill. Nope. Tonight I get a message from my SIL asking what the plan is for the baby shower. I'm confused because the invitations went out and she should know (plus I'm already irritated with her because she decides to plan her sisters birthday party the DAY before the shower, when her birthday is no where even near this date 🙄). I tell her that everything is being handled by our MIL and that she can look at the invitation if she needed. She then tells me that it's her understanding that it is going to be held at our tiny apartment, that my husband and I would have to provide enough tables and chairs and that she was doing the games.

🤯 My mind is fucking blown because that was not what we discussed with my MIL at all. All I know is 1) I am not hosting a party for who knows how many people in my tiny ass apartment at 37 weeks pregnant when they both have houses with large yards and enough space. 2) I ain't paying for shit because I didn't want this baby shower to begin with, AND my MIL specifically told my husband and I that my SIL and her husband we're getting the tables and chairs. And 3)My mother was told to buy games and decorations wich she already started to get, besides the fact my SIL doesn't know how to play baby shower games so why would she be the one in charge of that?!

Maybe I am just over reacting, but This whole situation got's me sooo upset! This is not the first time she's done this. I wish I would have stuck to my original non-stressfull SIL free plan 🙃. Sorry this is so long but I need to vent. Am I crazy and over reacting, or is she wrong?