I am 2 months healing from our ectopic loss. Today I had to attend a friends baby’s christening. Surrounded by children and babies of all ages. Couldn’t take my eyes of the newborns making me feel so sad. Long story short a group of girls with babies said to me “if u ever feel like looking after a kid u can borrow mine”. I just wanted to shout back “I constantly want to look after a kid, my own kid, but my journey is clearly not as smooth sailing as urs.” We have kept our loss quiet only telling immediate family so they weren’t to know. But I just think in this day and age girls should have more sense than to make stupid comments when they don’t know other people’s stories. On social media we are reminded by people sharing memes etc that it’s not easy for everyone to get pregnant and 1 in 4 ends in miscarriage. Possibly because of my difficult journey I always think twice before commenting on other people. Other people don’t seem to. I’d love some advice of a,good come back to say to people which in no way suggests that we personally have had issues but makes them shut up and think about what they’ve said!