Does anyone else’s husband do this?

We have a 4 week old daughter and in the last 4 weeks I think my husband has helped through the night 2 or 3 times. I couldn’t breast feed so we have a prep machine for making up bottles. A couple of times I’ve asked my husband to make a bottle while I change her and he says he will but by the time I’ve changed her he is back asleep! He had 2 weeks off when she was born but is back to work now. I get up through the night, I have her more during the day, I sometimes get up st 5.30 or whatever time she wakes and won’t go back down and he continues sleeping. Like Saturday morning I got up at 5.30 and left him in peace so he slept till 9.30. Sunday morning she was stirring about 7 so I asked if he could take her and let me have a couple more hours but he moaned said he was tired and that he works through the week so I ended up getting up again! I don’t nap (just never been a napper) he loves a nap 😑 but still complains he’s tired and he works and all those excuses. He also says that even though he doesn’t get up during the night he is still awake when I’m up with her so that’s why he is tired 😤. Anyone else have this issue or is my husband just a certain type of special 🤷‍♀️

Picture of my daughter, she likes sitting up looking out the window but when we start swaying while listening to music she is out for the count 😂😂😂. How can I get annoyed with that wee squishy face 🤷‍♀️

Update!!!

Thank you for everyone’s comments and support!! I’m glad I’m not the only one that this bothers and I’m not asking too much of my husband.

So the other night my husband and I agreed that he would look after our daughter for the whole day and I could have the day off and do whatever I wanted ☺️. I said for him to get a real understanding he had to do the night shift before it too so he can see how exhausting it is. He agreed 🙌. So Thursday night she wakes up for a feed so I wake my husband, he got up, made the bottle, changed her and then settled her again. Took about an hour and a half from getting her up to getting her back down again. She wakes up a few hours later so I wake him again. He can’t even open his eyes he’s so exhausted from being up earlier 😂!!! He’s done one feed and he’s done! He fell asleep again and so did our daughter without a feed so I wasn’t complaining (before anyone says anything she was only stirring, I wake as soon as she stirs so it wasn’t that she was crying and we ignored her). So again at 6 she wakes and I wake him. He eventually gets up to make the bottle and change her. After her feed she’s sick a little 🤦🏻‍♀️ he turns to me and says “now I have to give her a bath. This is crap” 😂!!! Very quickly he realised how exhausting 5 weeks of night shifts without any help of support is! I wasn’t going to help him during the day cause I don’t have any help when he’s at work but my plan was successful so early on I said I would help but he has to see to her when she’s crying and feed her through the day. He was so exhausted he actually said, and I quote “I get it, you do a lot honey”. Why did I not do this weeks ago!! During the day he even said he would help me the next night too by making the bottle ☺️. That was all I wanted, the offer of help!!! So last night when she woke for a feed I didn’t bother waking him, I just did it myself. I fed her and got her back down. About an hour later she started crying...that lasted 2 hours 🤦🏻‍♀️. My husband and I were getting a little stressed so we ended up having an argument at like 3am 😑. However in the heat of the moment I told him to deal with her cause I was loosing my nerve! We both said things we shouldn’t 😔 but he did take her a drive to try and calm her. 10-15 minutes later he came home and he had managed to get her to sleep. He got back in bed and we both apologised. It was just the stress of a screaming baby at 3am!!! It just shows that he is there to help me when I need it. And although this is stressful and chaotic at time we just need to work together and help each other. If shouldn’t have come to an argument but we are only 5 weeks into this parent malarkey so I think we will eventually manage to master it (as much as anyone can that is). He still drives me crazy at times but last night when he apologised it really meant a lot ❤️

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