Losing my virginity

Some background

My boyfriend isnt shy but he is more passive compared to me. I am a very flirty/suggestive person with him where he tends to be more romantic and sensual (it's a wonderful balance and I have no issue with how he shows affection).

So I am still a virgin. My boyfriend and I have been together for a long time now.

We've fooled around, done some foreplay, touched each other, basically everything. I am on the pill and have protection ready when I need it (and lube) but we are both virgins. Weve both talked about doing the deed, but compared to oral it seems like a slightly bigger deal. Do I just go with the flow? How would you suggest I initiate it? Location? I may be over thinking this but I do want it to be a good time. We are each others first so no one really knows what they're doing. I almost always take control of the situation and I initiate most sexual experiences, I want him to be more aggressive in a sense (take the lead). Is there any way I could get that?

I know I asked several questions but any advice/tips/stories would help out a ton!❤