Do you/will you regularly look through your child’s cell phone? 📱

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Why or why not?

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Yes, and they will know it. Transparency is key, why would i expect them to be upfront and honest about what they do if I'm not? Giving your CHILD privacy in a virtual world is neglectful.

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People are so fast to say they won’t get them a phone or they can only have one that calls or something, but what are you going to do when there old enough (16) to start driving or working. Gunna have there boss call your phone or if they get into a wreck you aren’t going to know until their in the hospital or worse. I will be getting my child a phone as soon as they start going to friends and doing sports, but also I will have my kids we’re they rather fish or hunt then be on games all day. I will not go looking through their phone because that’s their privacy, however I will if I absolutely have to if it’s important enough, but my child will trust me because I will show them there’s nothing to hide and not keep them sheltered completely under a rock like the rest of these parents are going to do. it’s not your right just because you’re a parent. They deserve privacy also.

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No. Why would I do that? They're a human being and deserve their privacy. I don't own them, I'm raising them. Honesty is the key, it's better to let them feel free to be honest and comfortable with me than to feel trapped

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Guys, dont go through your kids phone. Just dont do it.
I was never allowed to have a phone, even in high school, even if I paid for it. So some of my sweet friends and I would pass notes in high school like it was the 90's 😅 One day I was passing notes about a boy I had a crush on, and accidentally brought it home in my backpack instead of throwing it out in the school trash. I realized this at home, ripped it up in tiny pieces, did the same with a few other random school papers, stuffed it in an envelope and threw it in the trash, with a few other school papers & envelopes I didnt need anymore.
My mom went through the trash, sorted out the ripped up pieces of paper and taped the note about my crush together, and grounded me for two weeks. One week for having a crush on a boy, and the other week from hiding it from her.
I know this is an extreme example, but parents please take this from me: if you give your children zero privacy or freedom, they will go to college and BREAK BAD. By the grace of God I settled down from that lifestyle but it took some counseling and alot of introspection. Children are people too, and deserve basic respect like you would give to any other person.

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My husband and I agree to give my son his first phone when he’s 14 a Freshmen I. High school. He’s 10 now.

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What’s “looking through” their phone? Checking what apps they have? Going through pictures? Text messages and messenger? My parents never looked through my phone so I don’t see doing it to my kids, just not how I was raised. And no, I didn’t get up to trouble on mine...
If I’m worried about their safety, maybe...but why even get them a smart phone if I don’t trust them with it? Monitoring what they talk about with their friends seems a little too far for me. I’m 24 and still wouldn’t want my parents to see some of my conversations lol

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I will have one of the apps that lets you control what they download and have access to and tracks the phone with GPS. I teach and there are way too many kids with unlimited access to their phones from too young of an age. They need to be taught appropriate use. There is too much out there for them to get into and too many creepers who are searching for easy prey. I wish more people were teachers to see how scary and destructive phones for kids really are. Not to mention what the amount of screen time does to their developing brains.

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Nope. I won't get my child a phone unless I feel they're mature enough and I can completely trust them to be honest with me. Also my girls will know their boundaries with their phones. If I feel like there's something my child isn't telling me or is lying to me about then yes I would go through her phone but I wouldn't go through it regularly just because I can.

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"I wont get my kid a phone until i trust them" thats....hilarious. my parents thought the same so when I got my own computer and phone and I knew they wouldnt check it.. oh God lol. Random old ass men messaging me, pain Olympics, two girl one cup, people threatening to slaughter me on video games. Technology can be dangerous and no matter how much I trust my kids I do not trust everyone my kids will come into contact with. Gimme MY phone that's in MY name! Lol

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Well I said yes, but I probably won't do it unless my Spidey senses tingle and I feel it necessary. 
Not everyone can ask for help if they need it and some of the things kids these days are looking at and sending to each other is horrendously inappropriate for their age. I'd rather be on top of things.

Do you/will you regularly look through your child’s cell phone? 📱

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