What to do..

So my husband and I have been together 10years.. This is our 3rd year of marriage.. We spoke about having kids before our wedding n decided we didn't want them yet, n would get married first. Now, 3years in nothings happened by itsself, we've found out we'd need ivf icsi and are in the process of being referred.

But the hubby now thinks I'm being obsessive n still isn't that fussed at having kids, we'r in our early 30s and don't want to wait much longer knowing we'l need help.. He says it's not that he dosnt want kids, rather he's happy without them, if it happens it happens... it's doubtful it will happen for us, naturally anyway. but I'm not sure I can push myself through ivf knowing if it fails its just me that's upset.. Fealing quite alone..

I never thought we'd not have children, and I know even with ivf we might not have children, which makes me sad.. But have always thought I'd adopt if we couldn't have our own..

Just hate how this puts so much pressure on things other couples take for granted