So I’ll just sum up a little back story here...I had this abusive ex, and I got an STD (vaginal herpes) from him which was not from consensual sex....anyways, I told my current boyfriend about it once I found out and he immediately went and told his mom. She begged him to break up with me, said I was just going to give diseases and that I was gross etc. Granted, I highly doubt she knows the full story. Not that I’d explain it all but still. Ever since then, she’s not been my biggest fan. She tries to tell him how bad I am, how he gains nothing from our relationship and I feel like it’s all rooted from when she heard about what I have.

I’ve been thinking that maybe I should go over to his mom’s house and talk with her? I know there is a stigma around any std and I want to clear it up. I’m moving with him in August and I don’t want the rest of our lives to have tension like this. Plus, I feel like he may have given her some misinformation about it, making it appear worse than it is. I know she loves her son and wants to keep him from any harm, and so do I...I guess i just want her to know that we’re on the same page and to clear any tension. Would this be weird for any of you who have sons maybe? What would you think? Or anybody else, I just need opinions!

And just a disclaimer because I feel like people may wonder: i was tested after the incident with my ex, but herpes testing is not part of routine STD checks. That being said, I had no clue that I had it until my outbreak.

Thanks so much for your input!