Too soon to feel insecure about weight gain?

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I'm only 9weeks pregnant and I've already gained some weight, I can see it, I can feel it. 😞 (Backstory...) I had a very unhealthy  2017year and went from 145lbs to 180lbs and I'm currently 185lbs (I'm 5'4). In these 9 weeks I've gained 5!!! And year 2018 was so hard for my self esteem. Then I reunited with someone that I truly believe is my soulmate (he believes I'm his too)... lately I hate too see my big lovehangles in everything I wear, or my double chin when I talk with people. I get SUPER! jealous when a pretty lady passes by and I catch him taking a glimpse, like if he were telling "i wish you looked like that"... 
We have fought so much about that lately, honestly I'm exhausted about my own jealousy. I am now trying to eat healthy for baby, but there is so much I can exercise with feeling sick and having two other kids. Am I exaggerating? I don't want to scare him away🤷🏻‍♀️ I don't know what to think...

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I know how how this is. I do. I’ve struggled with body image, but you have to take back power you are leaking all over. He loved you, but he won’t love your insecurity and jealousy. You need to journal that or process it elsewhere. Don’t bring him your issue or he’ll resent you for it. You don’t want that. Can you start walking more? You can do this pregnancy and not gain heaps of extra weight.

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There’s no such thing as too soon for feelings, you feel whatever you feel! Personally, I have a lot harder time with body image at this awkward early stage of pregnancy than when I look more obviously pregnant later on.
As far as your partner is concerned, he should be making you feel reassured that he finds you gorgeous and sexy! Maybe instead of getting angry at him when you think he’s looking at other women, try to talk to him in a more positive way about what you feel like you need from him as far as reassurance goes, instead of making it an accusation that he’s going to get defensive about. It’s also worth trying to open up and talk to him about how hard it is for women to deal with all of the expectations around our appearances and how hard it can be to feel good about ourselves. A lot of men just don’t get it.

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I know it’s hard. I’ve struggled to embrace my body and with the quick changes pregnancy can bring, it can be a challenge. I would talk to him about it. If he’s your soulmate it’s not going to scare him away. It’ll bring you closer. Also don’t be so hard on yourself. Your body is doing such an amazing thing and it’s beautiful! Don’t go crazy exercising. Just be as healthy as you can be and try to enjoy it.

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It’s not too early to start watching your weight gain, especially since you’re going into this overweight. I’m 5’3” and started at 176lb and down to 171 at 7 weeks, I’m going to actually try to lose 10-20 lb in the next 34 weeks so that my total pregnancy weight gain is somewhere around 5-10 lb. I let myself go during my last pregnancy and gained 60lb, only 30 of which came off after baby was born. You’re still early, so you can try to nip the weight gain in the bud. 
That said, now is not the time for crash diets. Watch your calorie intake, you probably need about 1600-2000 per day (and if you’re honest with yourself you’re probably getting more than that right now), eat healthy, whole and unprocessed foods, cook at home when you can, get some light to moderate exercise every day, like walking or yoga. 
Keep in mind that your hormones will have other plans for you, and you might gain when you’re not expecting to, but as long as you’re watching what you’re eating and staying active that’s the best you can do. 
Don’t worry too much about your partner. He loves you for you and you’re growing his baby. ❤️

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I hear ya, I had lost 60lbs the year prior to getting pregnant and then over this summer fall and winter I gained 40 back and then bam got pregnant. Early pregnancy is when I’m most insecure too because I just look fat not pregnant. Especially seeing all these cute little bumps starting to grow on people and I just look like um I had a really bad breakup and ate a bunch of brownies and ice cream 😂 
Girl I get it. Summer days are coming though! With early pregnancy I feel like we are these chunky delicate flowers but by summer we will be able to go on long walks and drink lots of water to only gain that beautiful baby bump! We are lucky in this way because the nice months will be the majority of our pregnancies so we get lots of fresh produce and beautiful weather to get out in! 
I gained 5 lbs by the time I had my first checkup at 7 weeks lol and haven’t weighed since (now 10 weeks) I started with my first pregnancy at 169 lbs and they accused me of drug use since I was only 17 and hadn’t gained in my first trimester and so it freaked me out and got me upset and I ended at I think 220. I do NOT want that to happen again since this time I’m starting at 223 🙈 up the water intake is the only advice they will give to maintain weight in pregnancy. My mom was told to do so with my youngest brother and it worked for her. 
I also want to add that you should talk with your man about it, so he knows how you’re feeling and how little looks can even hurt during this time. Im going into this pregnancy single (boyfriend said I wouldn’t be pregnant, that I just needed to go to the gym so I’d be better for my next bf) so ya, glad to escape that bullet but I get it with not feeling as *cute* right now. I do want to tell you though that this is a time where your body is going to be cute in a whole new way that not all women ever even get to look like. Embrace it and be that sexy lil pregnant momma cuz it doesn’t last forever :)

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You’re going to gain even more weight, you’re only 9 weeks in.

Too soon to feel insecure about weight gain?

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