Do you believe some men act the way they do because of how they were treated my their parents?

My husband can be so immature sometimes. I just feel like after a certain age some things aren’t acceptable. Pick up after yourself, make yourself your own food sometimes. I’m a SAHM for the moment I am going back to work. (I do believe that I should handle most of the responsibilities at home) But he never picks up any slack. He just goes to work (he doesn’t work full time atm) messes with his car comes home and gets on the game. I’ve hounded him before about not taking responsibility for his son and you know what his mom told me. Don’t rely on a man..... um what?? He’s my husband I’m supposed to rely on him(to a certain extent). My husband and I got into an argument. I always come forward and talk it out with him even when he’s in the wrong. For the first time I was tired of being the bigger person and I didn’t confront him first about the situation. She tells me that the way I’m handling it this gives him the right to cheat.... with that being said. Exactly what responsibilities is your son supposed to have? You don’t expect him to take over and take care of our child for once you don’t expect him to be loyal to me when for the first time I was tired of being the bigger person. So what standard should he have? I know for a fact that she’s to type of women that believe that man are “superior” in a way and should be babied but I’m not about that life🤷🏽‍♀️