UPDATE Pregnant and Grandma to be

I’m currently 26 weeks pregnant and my 17 year old daughter just broke the news to me that she is also pregnant. I am so upset in so many ways and can’t process a coherent thought. I can’t tell anyone I know about this yet so I’m coming here to vent.

UPDATE Thank you for your comments. I am thankful she told me instead of hiding it. However, I am hurt she went to her dad first and got the pregnancy confirmed at urgent care a week ago with him. I had her and her twin sister a month after turning 20 and that was hard enough. That’s why I’ve tried to get them both on birth control for a couple years now. They refused and told their doctor they didn’t need it. I am upset that this could have been prevented if she was honest. I’m upset that I couldn’t do more. I’m upset that I’m upset. I know it could be worse. I know she needs me. I’m trying to be there for her. But I’m also so mad at the situation that I’m making myself sick. Did I mention she still wants to go away to college in the fall? My husband and I want her to stay local. We live 5 minutes from one division I school and 20 minutes from another. We want her to stay home so she isn’t alone and we can help but she has her heart set on a school 2 hours away. This is so much to process in one day.