I’m in a loving long term relationship but I keep thinking about a guy I dated for 4 months even though it was years ago.

Nearly 3 years ago I dated a narcissist who lied to me a lot and honestly made me feel like I was losing my mind. We only dated for 4 months but I ended things because even though I really liked him, I couldn’t trust him and knew it wasn’t healthy to cry so much in a relationship.

My now partner helped me a lot and made me realise I deserved better. I got together with my partner after I ended things with the other guy. I genuinely fell in love with my partner and appreciate him being such a wonderful, solid, honourable man... pretty much the opposite of the last guy I dated.

I plan on spending the rest of my life with my partner. But every now and then I think of the guy I dated before. It was a very passionate relationship I had with the other guy whereas my relationship with my partner is built on respect, love and comfort.

I know I only think of the other guy because it was such an intense relationship and he left some pretty bad emotional scars. But I still feel guilty that he keeps popping into my head when my mind should be focused solely on my amazing man.