Is it just me?

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Ever since I got pregnant, sex doesnt feel the same anymore we went from twice a day to maybe once every other month now. It honestly hurts doesnt matter what position we even use lubes and nothing stops it from feeling like the first time everytime. I feel so bad because I know we had such a great sex life before this and now I dont even want too. Any advice or suggestions because I'm at a loss. I want to please my husband. Will it all be back to normal after baby or is this it?

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I know exactly how you feel. That happened with my first pregnancy (and it's happening with this one as well). Let me tell you it does get better. Not right after the birth (honestly I banned my husband from being anywhere near my vagina for those first 6 weeks, not just because of doctor's orders but also because sex sounded even worse after I pushed a watermelon out of that tiny hole). After we got the clear to have sex again, the first few times were horrible--use lube!!!!--and we definitely weren't having sex as much as we used to. By month 5 (it varies woman to woman) sex was pleasurable again. Month 6 we were at it like rabbits whenever we could get moments of peace. Our sex life even expanded beyond what we were used to. Sorry for the long ass comment, but I just wanted to let you know it will come back!

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2x a day?! Dang girl lol how the heck did you have time?! And I do think pregnancy definitely makes it hard. Lower sex drive, sore, bigger, I feel less sexy, etc. I also was on pelvic rest for 20 weeks so happy to be able to have sex now! But doesn’t feel the same just because of all the blood flow to my vagina. It feels more tender. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I do think sex changes when you have a kid, just because you are super focused on the baby, tired, sleep deprived, etc. but I also think that it gets much better than in pregnancy!! Don’t worry :) it will be much better once baby is out! Just give it a couple months!

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There are other things to do than have sex! Trust me I'm on pelvic rest (no sex) and you can still have fun without penetration. Especially if it hurts - no thank you!!!

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I’ve had pregnancies where sex was amazing, and pregnancies (like this one) where it hurts like H-E-🏒🏒! Morning sex is sometimes not as painful. Especially now that I’m mid-way through the 2nd T. Not sure why. But I do know the position of my cervix has played a roll. I’ve also had a varicose vein in the va-jay-jay that caused a lot of pain during sex.

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So glad I’m not alone in this! What line do you ladies use? If you don’t mind me asking. We haven’t tried lube yet 😕

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I’m in the same boat here. It’s just uncomfortable and not enjoyable. I did find that if we really extend the foreplay and penetration is quick I can enjoy myself. Glad to hear I will likely be back to normal after the baby!

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I thought it was just me! We weren’t able to have sex for a while due to some bleeding but we were cleared again and I wanted to die. It felt awful!

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I swear. We have to use lube when we do anything and it still feels so freaking tight and almost painful. My husband gets his feelings hurt because I can't do it like I used to. But my vaginal is so weird now, I can't deal 😂

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Following because I feel the same way 😏

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