he put his hands around my neck during a fight

I hit him first. He wouldn’t let me leave the house, he was blocking the door. So whenever I got close to him or tried to force him out of the way, he’d shove me backwards. I have a terrible temper, and I hit him on his chest like 4 times. (I’ve punched him one other time before) He tightened his lips and got in my face yelling, then put his hands around my throat.

I started crying and he justified it by saying “well you keep hitting on me how is that even fair?”

I’m at a loss for words... who’s wrong, what’s wrong with this situation, is it okay what he did because I hit him first?