Need some advice.

I’m having a really hard time and it’s actually driving me crazy. So my oldest is four year old. This year is his first year in preschool and as far as I knew everything was going great. He’s in it 2 days a week for 2 and half hours. He has two teachers in his class at a time for 10 students. Heres where there’s a problem. Thursday was his second to last day of school. When I showed up to his class to pick him up they did not call him out like they normally do but instead waited till all the other kids left then one of the teachers came over to me and told me that they are having a problem with him and that he has had a lot of angry problems. That he does not play well with other kids and he never wants to participate in any activities and doesn’t follow direction. They said he has been acting out with lots of anger. Also he is very controlling. And that it has been going on for awhile and has progressively gotten worse. Im very concerned at this point and ask how long this has been going on. First the teacher starts to say since their last field trip. (Which was in March) and then changes it to December. I tell he I’m in shock and have never had a problem with his anger at home or other events that we go to. And she tells me that if it continues we need to get him evaluated. But I’m having a lot of problems with this conversation.

1. He goes to church almost every week and not only have they never said he’s had a angry problem but said that he’s very happy and is the teachers helper.

2. If this has been a problem since December (5 months ago) why are they just now telling me this. He has one day of school left so I can’t even try to fix the problem.

3. We are not an angry house hold. Me and my husband aren’t yeller. We are very loving towards each other. He works and I’m a stay at home mom. We have taught that if your doing something that’s not working or starting to upset you or make you mad we take a break. Then try again.

4. He is in ton of events. Story time, paint classes, jungle gyms, play houses and haven’t noticed any problems. He’s always playful makes lots of friends.

5. When I drop him off at school everyone is excited to see him and all run over and everyone starts playing with each other. And he’s loves going to school and playing with his friends.

We have family visit often with cousins that live down the street and come over to play. We also have cousins who visit from out of town and will stay with us and have 6 kids.

I mean my son isn’t prefect and makes mistakes like every other kid. Sometimes he doesn’t listen. He makes messes and gets into things he’s not suppose to. He wines and someday he gives me a really hard time with his attitude. But anger has never been a problem. And they are saying it’s to the point of needing to be evaluated which would have to be pretty extreme. I’m so confused and in shock on what to do. How am I supposed to monitor something that is not happening in front of me and I am with him everyday all day for the most part. So now I’m thinking I need to have a meeting with the person who is in charge of them person for a few reasons. If this was a problem for that long. Why is it just now being told to me. If this anger is something that’s only coming out in school. Why? So the advice I’m asking for should I make an appointment to talk to the supervisor about the situation or just drop it. I’m really frustrated and confused by the whole thing.