Am I wasting my time?

I know my boyfriend loves me. We’ve been together for nearly 5 years and he supports me like no man ever has. I don’t mean that in a financial sense either (although if I ever need something he is there for that too). He is emotionally open, nurturing, kind, and loving. He is funny, compassionate, and warm. But there are things that I can’t seem to look past.

Tonight we were supposed to go out to a party that his friend was DJing at. He cancelled because he was tired. This is something that happens fairly frequently. He doesn’t like to go out or do things particularly in the evening. He usually says he’s tired but he’s a musician and is self-employed. I work 60 hours a week at a tech company and still find energy to go out and do things. Idk. Sometimes I feel like I’m wasting my time in the sense that I will typically bend to the things he wants to do. Keep in mind he’s 13 years older than me (I’m 27.) idk ladies. There are so many things I love about him. But sometimes I just wonder. I’m not even sure what I’m looking for in this post, just to vent I guess. Thanks for reading.