Separation anxiety HELP!!?

Question

My son will be 1 on June 4th and he has, what I believe to be, severe separation anxiety. He's been like this for almost his entire year of life!!
As a newborn (0-4months) he didn't want to be put into swings or bouncers etc. He absolutely refused to sleep in his bassinet and as he grew older none of this behavior got any better. 
Now that he is almost 1, he's walking and he seems to have gotten worse with his separation anxiety. He cries nonstop if I leave the room, and it doesn't matter who else is in the room with him. I've tried the whole "ignore and let him cry" thing, but I can't let him that long! I have to pick him up because he literally does not stop, instead he cries harder and louder. It's heartbreakingly unbearable to see (and hear) him like this. 
His dad seems to think he doesn't find comfort in him (and thinks our baby doesn't like him) because our son is so attached to me and it makes me feel sad because i know he loves his dad. And I want his dad to know that (if only our son would just stop being so clingy to me) And now this has become almost a daily "argument"/discussion, that I dread having to have. (YES I breastfeed and I am a SAHM) 
What can I do to help him and to try to break this habit? AND help him be more comfortable with other people (at least his dad!!) **We cant even get a babysitter (even family) because he cries and fusses the whole time!!**

Answer

You can encourage one on one time with dad (while you step out of the house).  It still might take a while for your son to warm up to dad/other people.
My oldest was like your son and it was really hard on our marriage.  I needed help/a break, but my husband hand him back to me or hide out in the garage.  Some kids just need more TLC.  
As for the people telling you to let him cry to teach him independence, chances are good they never experienced a child like yours, so you don’t really need to listen to that advice.

Answer

He still doesn’t have permanence of objects and since you’re his safe place (person) and you’re who he knows best, it’s totally understandable why he would be doing this. I know it’s frustrating, believe me, I know because my daughter was, and still is exactly like this. It does get better with age (she’s almost 2 in a few months). But there are days sometimes where it seems like I get nothing done because she won’t let me leave her eyesight, even if she is watching her favorite show. My husband will get home and tries to watch her while I make dinner and it works for like 2 minutes then she starts fussing and calling out for me, which breaks my heart because I have boiling hot grease flying out of the pan and she could get burnt if I let her near the stove top. The only time she really lets him hold her for more than 30 seconds is when he tries to put her to bed. But I get where your husband is coming from, because my husband says the same thing sometimes. Just remind him this is a phase, and your son loves him. I’ve just had to start leaving my daughter with my husband for a few hours on Saturday mornings so I can sell my baked goods at a local farmers market, but it’s good for the both of them. Maybe you can start small- baby steps- leave him with his father for 5-10 minutes to start with, then slowly add more time as he gets a little better at trusting his daddy the same way he trusts you. Go for a relaxing walk, maybe as the time gets longer, a relaxing bath if you take them, or a short nap. Get some you time in so you can recharge yourself when your husband starts having his “Father/Son bonding time.” I always think of it as “Daddy/ Daughter bonding time” whenever he has to watch her when I’m not in the same room/out doing something.

Separation anxiety HELP!!?

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